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The Latest Parenting Trend on TikTok? ‘Sittervising’
Yay! No more hovering while your kids play.
Nod when this scenario sounds familiar. It’s Sunday morning. Your thoughts aren’t yet fully formed, apart from an internal voice pleading with you to please take it easy on the Pinot Noir next time.
Your toddler has dragged you out of bed to play yet another epic battle between some random plastic people and a tired-looking trainset. Every time she asks you, your knees bend down before you know it, but today you’re too strung out to get off the sofa.
Should you feel guilty?
Say goodbye to mom guilt
No, says Susie Allison, who introduced the term ‘sittervising’ on TikTok and captured this on Instagram:
“You do not need to hover over kids while they play OR feel like you absolutely must be playing with them at all times. You can supervise kids from a seated position.”
Allison’s parenting tip: Stop interrupting play
Halleluja! This is excellent news for hungover parents, busy ones, and caregivers who need to take time off from helicoptering their brood.
Allison tells TODAY Parents: “Play helps children develop, both alone and with adults.” She adds: “However, when parents play 100% of the time, kids lose the benefits of play, such as spatial awareness or risk management and conflict settlement.”
Sittervising doesn’t just allow parents to enjoy a hot drink without interruption; it’s also good for children to learn how to play independently in a safe setting.
Something Laura Petix, OTR/L, a pediatric occupational therapist and mom to one neurodivergent daughter, agrees with when she tells Verywellfamily:
“Sittervising allows children to safely explore their environment, their toys, and activities with their trusted adult or caregiver nearby while still feeling a sense of autonomy and independence,”
You can start any time, even when your child is only a baby. Make sure her environment is safe and observe her while she tentatively touches her soft toys, plays with a mirror, or investigates her toes.
